When you or your child have been wronged in some way, what do you do?
I replay the situation over and over in my mind. My mind becomes a movie screen. I see myself and the offender quite clearly. I see our body movements, our facial expressions, and hear every word that was said.
First, I replay the situation and sit and steam and get angry about it. Then I replay the situation and think about all that I said and did, and why I (or my child) was right and the offender was wrong. Then I replay the situation and re-examine everything the other person said, confirming to myself yet again that I was right and the offender was wrong. Then I replay the situation again and think about all the things I could have said but didn’t. (Patting myself on the back). Then I begin to reflect on what I will say the next time I speak to the offender.
When I’ve been wronged, I can easily obsess all day long, and on many occasions, have continued to obsess for a week or more. I am ashamed to admit, there have been some difficult circumstances in my life that I’ve obsessed about for far longer than that.
My sinful, self-righteous obsessing can easily become a far greater problem than the problem that set me off. My obsessing can be a greater sin against God than what the offender did to me. Luke 6:41 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?”
It’s sinful, and it’s ugly.
Do I reflect Christ to my children on homeschool days like these? Not at all.
I believe some of the hardest battles we face as Christians are ones that others may never see — The Battles of our Mind. The Lord does though. I’m thankful He’s given us scripture for battles such as these.
Romans 12: 2 “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
Psalm 19:14 “May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.”
Isaiah 26: 3 “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.”
Luke 10:27a “He answered, ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’“;(emphasis added)
Lord, renew my mind! Help me to reflect on excellent or praiseworthy things so that my children will see Christ in me, and not an obsessing, angry, bothered Mom. Amen!
Copyright March 7, 2012 by Gwen Fredette
All Scripture taken from NIV (New International Version)